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Psychologist Daniel Keating on Stress, Anxiety & Adolescent Mental Health

An Interview with Psychologist Daniel Keating

Daniel Keating, Ph.D. is a Professor of Psychology, Psychiatry, and Pediatrics at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. He specializes in adolescent development and adolescent psychology.

Mai Tran:  Awesome. Okay. Hi, everybody. Thank you for joining us today for another interview in our Seattle Psychiatrist Interview series. My name is Mai and I'm a research intern at Seattle Anxiety Specialists. We are a Seattle-based psychiatry, psychology and psychotherapy practice specializing in anxiety disorders. Today, I'd like to welcome Dr. Daniel Keating.

Dr. Daniel Keating is a professor of psychology, psychiatry, and pediatrics at University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. And Dr. Keating is an expert in developmental psychology and he specifically focuses on the integration of knowledge on developmental processes, social factors, and population patterns in developmental health and how they affect individual and population health.

He's made significant contributions to research in the field and some recent academic articles that include "Cognition in adolescence and the transition to adulthood", "The Kids Are Not All Right: Adolescent Sadness, Hopelessness, and Suicidality are Skyrocketing. What to do?" And his book "Born Anxious: The Lifelong Impact of Early Life Adversity - and How to Break the Cycle."

All right. So before we get started today, can you please tell us a little bit about yourself and why you initially became interested in studying developmental psychology?

Daniel Keating:  Sure. So it's a long story, but I'll condense it. I did my graduate work, my PhD, at Johns Hopkins. And the work that I was doing at that time was really focused more on individual differences rather than developmental differences. But the focus was on early precocity, that is to say individuals who were advanced in during their early adolescence in terms of their math and scientific expertise and measured in a variety of ways. And so there was a developmental component to that obviously in terms of how people came to those things. There was also one of the giants in the field of developmental psychology was also was a professor at Hopkins when I was there, Mary Ainsworth, who is responsible for a lot of the work that's been done on attachment and the sequelae of attachment from early childhood. So I managed to come by some of that knowledge through her being on the faculty.

My first tenured position was at the Institute of Child Development at the University of Minnesota and increasingly began to focus on a variety of things having to do with how the differences develop as opposed to just that they exist and how we might deal with them.

And then I subsequently moved to the University of Toronto and was invited then somewhat out of the blue to take on the task of setting up one of their networks in a think tank called the Canadian Institute for Advanced Research. And it was on human development and it went across the board from sort of molecular and single-cell neuroscience all the way through anthropology, sociology, and so forth.

And then that really sort of provoked my interest in how both, individually, how the things develop, but also in terms of the population impact of a variety of things, focusing as I think the evidence led us to look at what are the circumstances that lead some individuals to thrive and other individuals to struggle. What are the kinds of things that are going on? And, of course, in that context, early life adversity plays a major role. So that's the very thumbnail version.

Mai Tran:  Yeah. And I also recall reading some of that in your book "Born Anxious."

Daniel Keating:  Right.

Mai Tran:  And I'm really interested in one of the concepts that you kind of laid out in the book, social epigenetics, and the links to stress dysregulation. So can you explain what these are to our audience in layman terms?

Daniel Keating:  Sure. So let me break it apart a little bit. So epigenetics is a relatively new field of study, certainly as it bears on behavior. And basically, the idea there is that of course we all know that the DNA you get at the moment of conception is the DNA blueprint that you'll carry throughout your lifespan, that doesn't change. But what does change is when we take a closer look at how genes function, and among the things that how genes work, basically, is that they're, if you think of them as little manufacturing centers and they're producing certain things that they're designed to produce. All of them have a region, it's called a number of things, the promoter region or the regulatory region of the gene. And what that does is in a sense, whatever it is that that gene does, the promoter region tells us when to do it, how much to do it, when to turn off, when to turn on, et cetera.

That portion of the gene is malleable. It can be affected by a variety of different things. It can be changed by physical exposures like toxic exposures. One of the best documented is in terms of the impact of cigarette smoking makes a lot of epigenetic changes that are thought to play a significant role in the development of cancer, for example. But the breakthrough from our point of view is the other term, social. And basically what was emerging and discovered and since has exploded is in really around 1999, 2000, was that first with animal studies and later with human studies, it turns out that social experiences, especially stressful experiences also cause epigenetic changes.

And some of the most important of those, we don't know all of them for sure by now, but some of the most important of them, earliest documented and most frequently documented are changes to the stress regulation system, which is basically what causes our stress system to respond, how much does it respond, how long does it take to go back to baseline and so forth. And so obviously, I think we all know that a stress system is essential for survival. We need to have it, but when it gets overly engaged, often because of stress exposure either in infancy or even in the womb, that then can make an epigenetic change that can carry forward in terms of how that stress system works.

Mai Tran:  Right. That's really interesting. And I am sure that a lot of people would be curious to know as what specifically are some of the most common environmental factors that can cause changes to your epigenetics?

Daniel Keating:  Right. Well, as I say, the stress response and the stress influence on this is the one that's, at this point, the best understood, although it's still not by far completely understood. But basically what we're looking at there is exposure to stress in a variety of ways. And it depends, of course, on the age of the organism.

So in the womb it's relatively straightforward in the sense is that if for whatever reasons the mother to be is experiencing high levels of stress or adversity, all the way from worries about sort of getting the material necessities of life or shelter, food, that kind of thing, or more seriously if they're in an abusive relationship and have stress because of that. So kind of those as the extremes, those, if they are sufficient, or if the mother's response to them is sufficient, that it produces a level of cortisol, which is one of the main products in the stress response system, if that cortisol is at a sufficiently high level, it can break through the uterine barrier and enter into the womb. And if those circulating chemicals then include cortisol at a sufficiently high level, they can trigger the epigenetic changes in the fetus even before they're born. So that would be one pathway that happens.

After being born, the first year to two are the most sensitive periods. And stress can come in a variety of ways. It's largely around the absence or a dysfunctional nurturing of the infants. So if they're not being taken care of, whether it's in terms of meeting physical needs or meeting comforting, nurturing needs like being held and that sort of thing, that then can elevate the stress level as well.

And then as individuals get older, those are the most sensitive periods, but it can happen later as well. But basically what that does is set up the stress response system, that high stress during those critical periods, sets up a system whereby the organism learns, in a sense, biologically, that it's probably a not very safe world out there. It's a dangerous world out there. And so if you're going to survive in a dangerous world, what you want to do is to have a stress response system that's more like a hair trigger. Even things that most folks might see as neutral, they would regard as dangerous and do that and respond excessively. And then excessive cortisol has a lot of negative consequences behaviorally, health-wise, and so forth.

The other thing I just want to point out is that we often speak of it, and I try to avoid it, but it's not easy, is to think of this as a problem or a deficit or whatever. I think it's better to think of it as an adaptation to what the organism perceives as a dangerous environment. So if in fact you are in a highly dangerous environment, having that kind of quick trigger stress response and immediately engage in fight or flight is perhaps survival, helpful.

And it doesn't do a whole lot of good for your body, but it does in fact maybe keep you alive. So think of the predator in the bush or a tiger in the bush. If you're in an area that's relatively safe and all of a sudden it's invaded by new predators, organisms that respond quickly to that are more likely to survive than individuals who don't. And so we have to understand, although in our environment, that's typically not the kind of environment we're living in, but the system doesn't know that, and so it doesn't know where the stress is coming from. And so it's typically more problematic for individuals with that stress response dysregulation, even though it really is evolutionarily an adaptation to dangerous environments.

Mai Tran:  Right. Yes, that's really interesting to hear. And speaking of that kind of stress adaptation, how would you describe what it feels like to experience that kind of constantly elevated stress response or as you called it in the book, a stress response system that is constantly locked on?

Daniel Keating:  Right. So basically the experience of it is just an elevated version of what all of us experience at one time for another. So if we're all we're anxious about a big test coming up or we're fearful about something that's happened, we respond with... And one of the adaptive purposes of cortisol is to activate your system. So it's actually in many ways beneficial. It focuses attention, it increases heart rate, lung capacity and all those other sorts of things that make it possible to react and to do stuff. In a system that is more or less locked on, not totally locked on, but sort of on a continuum, it's certainly more so. You have that experience a lot all the time. And so you're kind of on edge, nervous, agitated, concerned about things that may not really exist as dangerous to you or as problems or challenges for you, but you perceive them to be so.

And so it's important to recognize that, of course, once you've activated that, and it can be an internal activation, it doesn't have to be an external threat. And that is a lot of the anxiety disorder, you're activating a system that's actually not in response to some challenge in the real world. So if you're doing that a lot, you're constantly kind of on edge or restless or concerned, and the body doesn't know whether that stress response has been triggered by an internal thought or an external threat. It activates and then it causes these changes. So essentially you're looking for a flight, fight, or you're looking to run away, even though nothing particularly problematic is actually out there in the external environment to provoke it.

Mai Tran:  Yeah. And I know that sometimes it can get pretty serious. So what do you think would be the short and long-term consequence of that?

Daniel Keating:  Well, they're very similar in some ways in the sense that they're across the board. So it can have behavioral consequences. So you are quick to anger, you go into reactive cycle more readily than other individuals, which then certainly doesn't endear oneself to people around you because they can't predict your behavior, what's going to set you off. So there's a behavioral consequence, which is then because of the accumulation of various kinds of things, can cascade into various kinds of psychopathology, externalizing being kind of the excessive fight response or internalizing being the excessive flight response going inside or at another level of freeze response where you just don't react at all to anything because it seems too dangerous. So there's all those behavioral consequences, there's mental health consequences. And I think what has now started to enter the common understanding is that it has massive health consequences.

So individuals, some of the earliest studies, this is prior to epigenetics, but some of the earliest studies showed that the sort of fetal environment is predictive of cardiovascular risk in your fifties and sixties. So it is a lifespan kind of thing. We now understand that most of that is occurring not only, but largely through the stress response system. So one of the superb scientists in this area, Bruce McEwen, who passed away relatively recently, is responsible for a lot of that work and showing why it is at a stress response system that is dysregulated, remembering it's adaptive in some sense, but this kind of dysregulation provokes this kind of sustained cortisol level. And his term for that was "allostatic load". You're carrying too much around all the time. And as it turns out, cortisol can be toxic to almost all organs of the body.

So essentially it can show up in health as cardiovascular problems, as a whole host of other kinds of metabolic problems, and so forth. The link to cancer is not that clear. There's probably a link, but it's not as clearly strong because a lot of those come from exposures to carcinogens in one version or another, physical exposures. But a lot of these things that we, sort of at a population level, of course, we wouldn't know these things if we didn't look at populations. For a given individual who shows up with a medical problem at some point in their life, what the decades long history that brought them there, we don't know all of that. But if we look at populations, it gives us an idea of what kind of consequence or sets of consequences it has.

Mai Tran:  Right. Yeah. And what do you think when the stress response becomes maladaptive to us, what do you think is a good way for us to receive help or help ourself in those situations?

Daniel Keating:  Right. Well, for that, I think the place that we would be looking is into the literature on resilience in one way or another. And so the literature on resilience has mushroomed in recent years in parallel with our better understanding of trauma and stress and so forth.

And again, this is far from settled issues, but I think that if we look at the big picture, one of the big, and probably the most well-documented way to redirect that maladaptive pathway is through social connections. That is through positive social connections. And so that can come in many, many different forms. So it can come in childhood by sort of having a responsive extended family network who can help to deal with issues that are not working well, parent, child. And so that's one example where it can happen. We have good evidence that particularly in late adolescence and early adulthood, close friendships, intimate friendships, romantic relationships can have a similar effect, if the romantic or friendship partner is supportive and has the capability to help one learn how better to regulate these sorts of things.

And there's very good evidence of this in many ways, what is come to be known as a Romanian orphanage study. Looked at infants who, for a variety of political and economic issues at that time, there were many, many orphans who were not being cared for. There was large numbers of them, a government policy of promoting birth but not supporting families. And basically those individuals, those infants were in situations where basically the most minimal things to keep them alive were done. So they were provided with physical nourishment, food, water, milk, that kind of thing, but not much else. They were pretty much left unsupported or non-nurtured.

What we know is that those individuals, certainly up to about age one, maybe a little after that, if they were adopted from those circumstances, and there are some, it's a very tragic story, but individuals who were adopted into highly nurturing families by around age six or five or seven, looked pretty much normal. They didn't seem to have that stress dysregulation going on, or at least it wasn't affecting their behavior in major ways.

After that time, they pretty much do have lifelong consequences. So there's something about it becoming biologically embedded during sensitive periods that make it difficult to deal with. But the way that it does, those circumstances where it does work almost always involves some level of a change in the social network of closer affiliations and so forth. And so I think that stands out as the most well-documented one. Certainly in terms of particularly in childhood, things like parent-child therapy can help, right? To establish if there's enough capability for change to change what is a dysfunctional relationship in a direction that is encouraging of relational health, for example, can have a similar kind of effect, but that's of course a person to person thing as well. It's just guided person to person kinds of interactions.

The other one that stands out, and it goes by so many names, it's hard to give a comprehensive one, but it has aspects of the mindfulness approach, aspects of acquiring a set of purposes and goals and values and wanting to do some particular kind of thing. Having a focus can also be helpful and restorative in terms of giving some shape and substance to what it is that one might want to do.

Mai Tran:  Right. Thank you. That was a very extensive answer. And now I'd like to move on to your recent Psychology Today article, which is really useful. It takes on the really crucial topic of dealing with adolescent sadness, hopelessness, and suicidality in a society that keeps on triggering these responses. You mentioned a misdirection to avoid is to ignore the existential stressors in favor of the seemingly more manageable phenomenon of screen time and social media when you were discussing the effects of issues like gun violence. So how do you think we can offer help as loved ones for adolescents and prevent this epidemic of adolescent sadness, hopelessness, suicidality as these situations keep on occurring and we don't really have control over it?

Daniel Keating:  Right. So I think one of the things is that I largely think the high focus on social media as the cause of all of these mental health problems in teens is misdirected. Which is not to say that it might not be harmful for some individuals, but careful studies with large samples followed longitudinally essentially say that if there is an effect at all of screen time and social media, it's really kind of small. It's not that big a deal for most individuals. If you break it down a little bit further, it does look as though individuals who may have preexisting difficulties or challenges may accentuate it. On the other hand, there are individuals for whom it is beneficial, who might have difficulty maintaining positive relationships, and social media may well be a boon to them. And of course, we saw examples of that every day during the pandemic where teen peers are just enormously important and salient. We can see it in the brains to teens.

If you say, "No, that's it. You can't have any connection," it is likely to be very dangerous. So individuals who were in social groups and maintained them through a variety of uses of social media was beneficial. So I think we have to weigh that. And it's probably just for the vast majority of kids in the middle, it doesn't matter one way or the other, right? Particularly so, or at least we don't have any evidence that it does. So there may be effects, but the effects are relatively small. My problem with that view that it's the source of so many of the problems is that it blinds us to the fact that the other problems are much more important. So I've started to call this a stress pandemic. And it's not just in the US, it's not just teens. It really is a kind of universal phenomenon. And it's hard to ignore the fact that that's because so many things are going wrong, taking the US as our prime example, right?

Concerns about climate change... Now that will probably affect youth more because they understand they're going to bear the brunt of it than the folks who are making decisions, who are the CEOs of oil and gas companies or whatever. So they're going to suffer. So they're aware of that. Growing up, figuring out how to avoid active shooters is bizarre, right? That's just an enormous stressor. It is a huge stressor. And you can go on and on with other kinds of things. And so what I think we need to think about are at two distinct levels of this. And one of which we should focus on and we focus on a lot, but we don't focus on the second one.

The first one, Desmond Tutu, or at least a quote attributed Desmond Tutu, is that in addition to trying to scoop folks out and help them who are coming down the river with all sorts of problems and try to support them, we need to go upstream and find out why it's happening. And so the downstream stuff, I think, is what we are attempting to do when we do sort of psychological interventions, when we try to create therapeutic circumstances for individuals to figure out how to do it, and more broadly, sort of communicating effective techniques for coping with stress.

And of course, we know that some individuals are resilient without intervention, they wind up doing fine. The problem with relying only on that is that then we can tend to blame the individuals who don't succeed, who have had long histories of problems and stressors, and most of them without some kind of major support will not succeed. And so we don't want to blame them for that. We created the burden. We don't want to blame them for carrying the burden and not being able to overcome it on their own. And I think the techniques there, a lot of them are out of the resilience literature that we just talked about, which can be therapeutically supported by intervention, clinical, if it's serious enough by prevention programs or just general education. So you can have universal programs, targeted programs, clinical intervention programs, all of which are helpful, but it's not helpful enough to save everybody or the vast majority of people.

And the more folks who are coming downstream, succumbing to the stress, the less effective we are in terms of how many people we can help. The upstream problems are what we tend to ignore. Why have we created a world in which the stress level is so high? And I think if we fail to attend to that, it's a problem. That, by the way, in terms of the resilience literature about the second issue around purpose and goals and so forth, I do think that for youth, for teens and young adults and so forth, I do think that a lot of them have figured out that focusing on trying to change the big picture is actually beneficial individually. They feel efficacious, they connect with other people with similar views and so forth. And we often talk about adolescent risk-taking, which is another area that I'm working on now as a negative thing. And we're concerned about it when it is a health risk like reckless driving or substance abuse and that kind of thing.

But there's this tendency to be exploratory, to try new things, to push ahead, this also has positive sides. And that's what I think we need to encourage. So coping with the stress that you can't avoid, yes, but also breaking out of yourself and figuring out how do you create networks and alliances to address the upstream problems is something that I think is also a very valuable. We don't have as much evidence of that as we might like to have, but I think the evidence is trending in that direction.

Mai Tran:  Yeah, I really appreciate your perspective on trying to address the issue at the roots instead of shifting blame on other miscellaneous issues that may or may not contribute to the problems.

Daniel Keating:  Right.

Let me just mention, I do think on the social media side, let me just be clear. I think we do need to change how we're approaching social media. It's a proprietary, obviously, setup, so we don't have, from outside, much influence on it. But to the extent that the algorithms aggravate problems, I think we should be addressing that. I think we just shouldn't be laying it all off on that and ignoring the other big existential problems out there.

Mai Tran:  Yeah, definitely. And I also know that you advocated in your article that psychologists should not, quote, unquote, "stay in their lane" by helping kids with the consequences and ignoring the roots of those existential stressors like you just mentioned. So how would you recommend for professionals in the field to take steps towards addressing the roots of these issues?

Daniel Keating:  So I think there are a couple of ways. One is, in the individual therapeutic relationship, I think creating the space rather than focusing down on what the sort of immediate stimulus was for the problem the individual's experiencing is creating enough space for kids to open up about what it is that's truly worrying them. And that is happening. There are some relatively new therapeutic interventions that focus on climate fears, for example, or other kinds of things. And I think we need to create a space for individuals to be able to do that. And so I think that being more broader in the therapeutic content that we would entertain, I think is potentially a very helpful kind of thing. I think the other thing about not staying in the lane is essentially to say, "Well, my goal," and I'm working very hard at it as a therapist, "is to get as many kids out of that downstream before they go over the falls as I can." And that occupies me. That's what I'm doing.

And I think in many ways, that's great, but I think to not recognize what might be going on upstream and how do we try to deal with that because we are encroaching on other disciplines, we're encroaching on sociology or politics or economics or whatever, we should not be intimidated by that. We are, or claim to be, the experts in behavior and things that cause problems for individuals in their life. Well, let's look at that, right? Let's not be put to the sidelines when the sociologists get ahold of it. And I have lots of very good sociologist colleagues and whatnot. So it's not a matter of individuals, it's a matter of who owns what part of the problem. And our Canadian Institute for Advanced Research was designed specifically to overcome that so that we would have force and interdisciplinary dialogue across these many different dimensions and bring all of that expertise to bear in an integrated fashion.

So I think it's basically, it has an impact on the therapeutic relationship, but it also says we shouldn't just stay in our silos that even if we're doing great work in what we're doing, I think being aware of the fact that the problem is bigger than that and trying to speak to it when we can in whatever way we are capable of or comfortable with, I think is, er, not comfortable with, we should be uncomfortable, but that we should embrace that discomfort and deal with those and try to deal with those kinds of issues.

Another is I don't think we're ever going to be addressing successfully the issue of how racism affects youth in this country without being discomforted, right? It's not just an easygoing, "Oh, okay. Everything's rosy now." No, it's not. We need to figure out what's the impact of the legacy and how do we deal with it? And all of those problems that we're talking about have long legacies. I think we need to understand why and try to figure out how to address those as well and in concert with others who do different perspectives on the problem.

Mai Tran:  Yeah, I definitely hope that we'll reach that point in the future soon. And you also just mentioned briefly that you've done research on adolescent risk-taking and risk-taking behaviors. And I also read in your recent review article, "Cognition in Adolescents and Transition into Adulthood", you also discussed the paradox of development versus the high mortality rates in adolescents. Can you explain why this may be the case and what efforts have been done to alleviate this problem?

Daniel Keating:  Sure. Well, there are a number of different angles, different angles to it. I think that one of the things that we need to understand is that when it comes to health risk behavior, the big reason we're interested in it, of course, is not just the scientific part of it, but it is in the impact on everyday lives. And so we know that the rate of morbidity, significant illness, injury, and mortality is way higher than it should be based on how physiologically sound that period of life is. So in many ways, it's a pinnacle of physiological health. So that population particularly, so let's say in the second decade of life, is one where individuals have managed to get through exposures to all sorts of childhood illnesses and exposures and whatnot and have arrived at adolescence.

And we also know that in a variety of ways, different things begin to accumulate. So by the third decade and fourth decade and beyond of life, those things start to manifest. So it should be the healthiest period of time, but we know that the levels of morbidity and mortality are much higher than, in a sense, should be just based on the physiological aspects of that age group. The reason for that is what we've come to call behavioral misadventure, in one way or the other, that individuals are engaging behaviors that have a high risk for mortality or morbidity, and that we need to think about how we might... We want to understand the basis of it more. And we want to figure out how that helps inform our approach to trying to mitigate this problem.

Now, we do have some very good examples. There are ways of modifying population behavior in this age group. One of the best documented is in terms of graduated driver licensing programs, where most states now have a period of time where you gradually get to the point of being able to operate a motor vehicle under any circumstances and includes things like not having unrelated gears in the car or minors in the car, maybe some restrictions on nighttime driving or highway driving or other kinds of things.

There's been very, very good essentially econometric studies of that showing that over the last several decades that the rate of mortality attributable to teen driving has dropped in the 40% to 50% range. So it's not impossible. We can do that. Similar things, not just specifically aimed at teens, but in the population or the society as a whole are issues around smoking essentially by changing the attitude about smoking, right?

Now, I know a lot of youth are into vaping and so forth, but certainly the smoking rate has gone down dramatically. So the point here is that we can identify, or at least in some areas, we have been successful in identifying ways to mitigate that risk for adolescents. The big areas that remain in terms really of morbidity rather than mortality are things like substance use that can turn into substance of abuse or substance use disorders of one kind or another.

The unprotected sexual activity is another one that's a significant contributor to morbidity to various sexually transmitted diseases and infections. And part of that is we seem to be going in the wrong direction, or at least in some places. So there are state by state changes or differences in how sex education is handled in schools. So if we just look at that, there have been studies where we've looked at many different influences in terms of sex education and so forth. And if you put it on a continuum from, "The only thing we're going to talk about is abstinence, that's it. Just don't do it and therefore it will reduce it." So if everyone followed that, yes, that would reduce it, but it's not realistic. That is not how the world works, how human bodies work. So there's that end. And then the other end is a very comprehensive sex education with lots of information and even with community support to get easy and non-embarrassing access to condoms and so forth and so on.

So if we look at the state differences and what's taught in schools, which is not a massive influence, but it's a significant influence, the rates are dramatically different in the sense that the abstinence-only sex education leads to higher levels of unwanted teen pregnancies, higher levels of sexually transmitted diseases and infections, and a whole host of the attendant problems that go along with that. So there's an example of one where we kind of know the evidence is real clear what we should be doing. There's then political and sort of, for some individuals, moral opposition to that. But we definitely know that we have a massively positive impact on that health risk if we just said, "Comprehensive education is what we're going to always do and community support for safe sex."

Mai Tran:  Yeah, I can recognize that that's definitely important, especially education-changing policies and community support. And so finally, would you like to share any additional messages or advice to our audience today?

Daniel Keating:  Well, I think we've covered a lot of the territory. I think I would sum up by saying I would encourage folks on either side of the therapeutic relationship become more aware that it's not just an issue in your mind. If you're having problems, it's not just a problem in your mind, that it is rooted also in the body. We use the term biological embeddings going back a few decades now. And it really does, it gets embedded in your body. And so you need to think about how at both ends of that relationship, to what extent are those contributing factors? How are they operating? And what kinds of things do you want to do? So for example, I think that a shift towards more trauma-informed practices, a shift towards focusing on the key role of relational health as an adjunct to a specific mental health kind of thing is where we need to be going.

I think that we need to have a broader view and a more interdisciplinary view that brings together the biological, the psychological, and the social. And those directions I think will necessarily point us toward looking at the bigger picture that we need to think about changing if we want to create a more less stress inducing world, less of a stress epidemic. And by we, I mean encouraging youth to become involved in that. They're already more involved in many ways than middle-aged and older adults. But I think that encouraging that youthful effort to change things, I think, is really important.

It can be overwhelming and so just ignoring it, in a sense, in some ways is coping, but it's not the best kind of coping, it's a kind of an avoidance coping. And that it also then can have a very positive impact on the individual's sense of efficacy and self and meaningfulness. And we are already seeing that. I think the, that generation, Gen-Z generation in particular is much more involved in these kinds of issues and thinking about these issues. And we need to find ways to support that. I think in many ways the answers will come from that generation if we can support it or at least get out of the way of the kinds of things they might want to be trying to accomplish.

Mai Tran:  Yeah, definitely. Thank you so much. That was really great advice. And if anything, I think we've managed to take away today that to be more aware of environmental risk factors, as you've mentioned extensively about that. So yeah, thank you so much. It was really lovely to finally meet you, and thank you for all the great nuggets of wisdom that you've offered us today. And I will definitely recommend everyone checking out Dr. Keating's research articles and his book "Born Anxious". And finally, thank you everyone for tuning in, and we'll see you all next time.

Daniel Keating:  Thank you.

Mai Tran:  Yeah, thank you.

Please note: The views expressed by the interviewee are for educational and informational purposes only, are not meant to diagnose or treat any condition, and do not necessarily reflect the views of Seattle Anxiety Specialists, PLLC.


Editor: Jennifer (Ghahari) Smith, Ph.D.

Consultant Leon Seltzer on the Effects of Childhood Self-Shame

An Interview with Consultant Leon Seltzer

Leon Seltzer, Ph.D., holds doctorates in both English and Psychology. He recently retired from general private practice with clinical specialties in anger, trauma resolution (using EMDR and IFS), couples conflict, compulsive/addictive behaviors, stress control, and depression.

Jordan Rich:  Hello, everyone. Thank you for joining us today for this installment of the The Seattle Psychiatrist interview series. My name is Jordan Rich and I'm a research intern at the Seattle Anxiety Specialists. We're a Seattle-based psychiatry, psychology, and psychotherapy practice with a specialty in anxiety disorders.

For today's interview, I would like to welcome Dr. Leon Seltzer, possessing doctorates in both English and psychology. Dr. Seltzer has previously functioned as an English professor at Queens College and Cleveland State University, and then later, as a psychologist, maintained a private practice for 35 years.

Upon retiring from his private practice, he's continued to offer private professional and personal consultations. In addition to publishing two books titled The Vision of Melville and Conrad and Paradoxical Strategies in Psychotherapy.

Dr. Seltzer has also been an extremely prolific writer on Psychology Today's website, authoring over 550 articles relating to psychology and psychotherapy, particularly on topics such as problematic relationships, compulsive and addictive behaviors, controlling one's anger, suffering from deficits in self-esteem and one's general self-image, and issues inherent in narcissistic personalities. Dr. Seltzer’s blog is titled Evolution of the Self with the subtitle On the Paradoxes of Personality, and his varied articles for Psychology Today have received over 50 million views. Thank you for joining us today, Dr. Seltzer.

Leon Seltzer:  And thank you for having me. I'm very happy to be part of your series.

Jordan Rich:  So to start, Dr. Seltzer, would you mind telling us a little more about yourself and what drew you to the study of psychology?

Leon Seltzer:  Well, I guess one of the things that's most interesting about that is my starting out majoring in English and becoming an English professor for over a decade. And the reason for that was that I had gotten the message, this is many decades ago, that what psychologists did was diagnostic testing, which wasn't a particular interest of mine, whereas psychiatrists were the ones who did the therapy.

And because of that, well, I had basically tried to decide whether I wanted to major in psychology or music because I love music, that I got so much encouragement from English professors that by default almost I majored in English. Which I don't really regret that much now because even though I left the field, it enabled me to really see myself as much as a writer as a psychologist and gave me the opportunity to do a lot of writing as I have on psychology, on psychotherapy once I entered the field. So no regrets there. The only thing I might mention is that I did a human growth training.

And it was interesting because it was during the training that I realized that if I had it to do over again, because my first love even after getting tenure was psychology, that that would be my preference. It was that training that made me realize if I were willing to go through what frankly is the torture, another doctoral program, that it was a possibility. And that's what I did. So I don't know if there's anything more you'd want to know about my past, but that is probably the most curious thing.

Jordan Rich:  Yeah, it's a fun little journey back around to your calling. It's very fun to see the kind of cyclical nature of it. So on your blog you describe a lot of your articles as surrounding the paradoxes of personality, which is a very specific phrase. Would you mind explaining to us what that phrase means to you?

Leon Seltzer:  It's interesting that Niels Bohr, the physicist, and I think it was back in the 1920s, said something like, "The opposite of any profound truth is equally true." Which would surprise a lot of people, but what I discovered is that there are many different perspectives toward one and the same thing, each of which has a certain validity.

And I think one of the things that most therapists do, regardless of what school they believe in or practice, is basically to have people understand some of their, what? Maladjusted behaviors as behaviors that were once necessary for them, that they weren't mistaken at all. And that the problem is simply that those behaviors based on self-protective mechanisms have basically become less and less adaptive as they've gotten older.

So, just to be able to see how things can be understood in different ways. One of the things I did actually before today was to kind of look at some of my more recent posts, or—and articles for Psychology Today. And I might just want to read some of the titles if I can find this here, simply because almost all of them are imbued with paradox.

So, looking at the most recent one, I did an article called Determinism vs. Free Will: A Contemporary Update. And my point was that to think that we have absolutely free will is probably not very accurate for the simple reason that if you believe at all in cause and effect, then it is also true that one cause can have many effects and many causes can have one effect.

Then anything like absolute free will doesn't square with the research that's been done, particularly in the last decade or so. The same thing with determinism. To say that our lives are predetermined is also reductive. It really doesn't get at the fact that there are certain choices that we do have. So it's like it's a paradox, that even people who don't technically, theoretically believe in free will live their lives as though they have free will.

So again, whatever it is, I'm always looking for the paradoxical element because it's a way of going deeper. And when I go deeper, I generally find I have a more profound understanding of whoever it is I might be working with. Let me look at a few other titles. The one before that was Why Discord, Paradoxically, Is Vital in Close Relationships.

And I think the very title is paradoxical because why would you want discord in a close relationship? And basically, what it is about is that, if in fact when we grew up our family, our immediate family disapproved of certain of our behaviors, then if our spouse enacts any of those behaviors, the child part of us will feel threatened. Because if this is our intimate other, our other half as it were, then it's going to feel threatening to us.

So we're going to have to dissociate from our partner. And a lot of times people don't even really understand the basis, the crux of why they've suddenly moved from harmony to disharmony. So it's very useful when they're in a suggestion of discord to realize they're not just talking about money, they're not just talking about how introverted or extroverted the other person ought to be, maybe depending on how introverted or extroverted their parents were, that they're talking about something that is most likely unresolved in their past.

So to give an example of this, let's say that a child by nature is kind of boisterous, asks a lot of questions, always wants to share everything that's going on with him or her. And the parents are both quite introverted, they're quiet individuals and they're made uncomfortable by their child's extroversion.

In a sense, they feel invalidated by that extroversion. It's going to be very hard for them not to be critical of their child, although the child isn't doing anything wrong. But if the child is young and, of course, very susceptible to his parents' ideas about him, he is going to think, “I need to be less loud because they keep saying, shh.”

And that makes me feel ashamed. It makes me feel that my bond with my own parents is tenuous. And I can't think of anything that would be scarier for a child not to feel secure, not to feel safe in their attachment bond with their parents. Now to the degree that the child tries to conform to what the parents need or want of him, then he will be, in a sense, suppressing his essential nature. And I've seen so many adults in the past that felt empty, almost as though some part of them was missing.

And it was a part that they had repressed because it was associated with parental disapproval, maybe even parental rejection. And I won't go into it, but it's the same thing if the child is very introverted and had two extroverted parents who felt that he was too insular, that he was isolating himself from his peers, that basically he needed to be in more group activities even though he enjoyed collecting stamps, whatever it was, or maybe just watching baseball games by himself on tv.

And it's a shame because most parents just want to socialize their kids because they realize that's their responsibility, but they have blinders based on how they were parented. So a lot of the problems that I had dealt with with clients basically had to do with the fact that their parents had blind spots.

And I think one of the things that is so useful about all forms of therapy is to the extent that the client gives the therapist a certain authority comparable or hopefully greater than the authority he gave to his parents and gets the message that who he is is acceptable. It may deviate from the norm, but that doesn't make it unacceptable.

And even if he's engaged in antisocial behaviors, although the therapist would like not to see that kind of behavior, the therapist would help him understand compassionately why he developed those behaviors. And it could be that he had to suppress his anger toward his parents because that would further alienate his parents from him. So that was too scary. But the main thing is if you experience anger and you don't express it, it doesn't disappear.

It just goes in deeper and deeper and then it gets displaced onto other people who don't deserve your anger, your aggression, whatever it might be. And it's the same thing with passive aggression. And on the other side, and this is more true of girls than of boys, what girls may do is try to please their parents because their parents react to them favorably or more favorably or only favorably when they're putting their parents' needs in front of their own.

And then the problem is I have seen adults who when asked, “Well, what do you need?” They didn't know. They had never thought about it. They had never had the luxury of asserting their needs to their parents without being told that they were being selfish. So and again, this goes back to the paradox of it all, that what happens is you end up blending with your defense mechanisms, and people pleasing can be seen as a defense mechanism.

And when you do that, you basically become alienated from yourself. And when you think about it, being alienated from yourself is probably even worse than being alienated from your parents. And the main thing about giving authority to a therapist who can have a deeper understanding of what's unconscious in you and bring it into consciousness is you can't change outdated defense mechanisms without making them conscious first.

And a therapist has to find a way of helping you do that without, in a sense, revitalizing or reawakening defenses that the child part of you still thinks are essential. I'll do one more title and then we can move on to whatever your next question is. Yeah. This is one of my favorite titles.

It's called, The Monster Once Beneath Your Bed May Now Be in Your Head. And this too is about internalizing those things that threaten you from outside. I once had a client who had this dream of being followed by a monster, being chased after by a monster. Maybe she was five, six years old. And she ran into her parents' bedroom and basically wanted to cuddle with her mother, and her mother was really the monster in the dream.

So what do you do with that? And this is how people end up kind of suppressing things and then later repressing them. The difference between suppression and repression is suppression is feeling something but not allowing yourself to express it because it feels way too dangerous for you. Over time what happens is just having that feeling is scary and you can try, and it's amazing that human beings can do this, not to experience the feeling.

This is why a lot of people have anger problems, don't realize that the anger isn't the source so much as anxiety is the source. Boys more than girls may suppress, well, I should say, yeah, girls more than boys, but both genders do this. What they will do is basically, in order not to feel an anxiety, which is disabling. Anxiety is obviously one of the most uncomfortable emotions that anybody could experience because it feels as though you're about to go over a cliff.

What anger does, anger by definition is always self-righteous. So it makes you feel that at least you have reason on your side, that basically the way you're being treated is unfair. You don't deserve to be treated that way. So anger feels a lot better than anxiety. The problem is if anxiety is what's underneath the anger, you never get a chance to work through the anxiety, and that is what would be ideal.

Then you wouldn't need the anger, to the degree that anger is a defense against anxiety. And in my earliest writings for Psychology Today, and I don't know what I mentioned, at this point, I think there's something like 554 articles. And you did mention very prolific, I think in your introduction.

And I'm surprised myself that I wrote that many, but I'm just dedicated to try to share whatever I've learned in all the 35, 40 years I've been doing therapy to kind of disseminate whatever clinical wisdom I have earned so that people don't have to necessarily read a 300-page book, but can maybe just read an article and get a sense of what they might not have realized beforehand. I probably have been talking too much. What's your next question?

Jordan Rich:  Never talking too much. So thank you for breaking that down. I had never heard that phrase before. So hearing your explanation and your examples was very helpful. Speaking of your writing on Psychology Today, one of your recent articles is titled, Does Self-Shaming Help You Avoid Being Shamed by Others? Could you elaborate on what you mean by this and what you think kind of gives rise to these defense mechanisms and how while we're still kids, they might serve us in positive ways but might not ultimately be good for us? Could you break that down for us a little?

Leon Seltzer:  Yeah. And that itself is paradoxical because the question would be how in the world could self-shaming be beneficial to us? But what we internalize defensively if our parents are shaming us, is to say, "Okay, I must be bad." And I think I also wrote a post saying, Do You Need To Be Bad To Feel Good? If feeling bad in some strange, not to be paradoxical, but perverse way helps you to feel more connected with your parents, then it's going to feel safer.

It's going to feel a lot less dangerous to agree with them on how you think they are assessing your behavior. So it's almost as though in shaming yourself, if they give you the message explicitly or implicitly—and it's actually more dangerous if the message is implicit because then you really can't work with it, because they never actually said it.

It was maybe just the look in their eyes. Because I remember one client I saw a long, long time ago who talked about one of her worst memories being when she went into the kitchen, her mother was preparing a meal and needed to talk to her about something. And her mother looked at her in such a way that she basically ran out of the kitchen because she felt so denigrated, so put down. And I think she ran into her bedroom and cried.

Her mother didn't say a word. But basically if a child says, “Okay, they think there's something wrong with me, I think there's something wrong with me.” So it's almost like they're asking their caretakers the question, “Can you accept me now? I think about myself the same way you think about me, doesn't that join us?” And that to me is the saddest thing in the world. And I don't know that anybody has ever written about self shaming being a defense mechanism, but I think that illuminates why it would be.

Jordan Rich:  Yeah, that's definitely a very heartbreaking scenario. So looking at the long term, what do you see as some problems that could arise as a result of a person having this harsh sort of judgment of themselves?

Leon Seltzer:  I'll give you another example. I worked with a client whose parents basically believed in corporal punishment and the father probably found something to beat him for on, pretty much on a daily basis. And one of his worst memories was he had made a mistake and his father said to him, “Here's $5. I will give you this $5 after you pack your suitcase because you're not welcome to live with us anymore. You keep making mistakes.”

This father also expected him to follow rules that were never described to him. And kids can make mistakes because they don't automatically know what the rules are, and different families have different rules anyhow. And when his father would beat him, and tears came to my eyes when he told me this. His father said, “Take off your belt. I'm going to beat you with your own belt.”

And as he was beating him, this is almost unbelievable, the father said to him, “See, your belt hates you, too.” How can anybody say anything like that to his son? Of course, one of the things I learned that his father was comparably abusive to him. And remember what I said before that basically a lot of these behaviors aren't thought out, they're automatic, they're programmed in.

And the problem is, unless you reevaluate how your parents treated you and recognized that it was abusive, you didn't deserve it. Because you may have thought you deserved it. That's what self shaming is about. “If they're treating me this way, I must be bad and all I can do is agree with them that I'm really a bad kid. So at least that is some way that we will be on the same page.” But in any case, there was one time when he did pack his bag.

He did take the $5 and he went out into the fields. He didn't know where to go, so he just walked as far as he could. It was also cold. And at three o'clock he heard coyotes and that scared him to death. So he ran back to his house, begged to be let in, but feeling an incredible amount of shame because he knew he had to adapt to however his parents saw him.

Now the final irony in this story, which speaks volumes, is he became a renowned surgeon and never stopped seeing himself as a fraud and was just waiting for the other shoe to fall. Because even though everybody told him what a fantastic surgeon he was, he was called in to deal with the most difficult cases the other surgeons frankly didn't know how to handle and routinely he would know what to do.

It's like his hands were an unbelievable gift. But he still had this sense of inferiority. And in close relationships, he had been married more than once, he had difficulty making them work because the passive-aggressiveness that he felt as a child would come out in various ways, he could easily be triggered. The other thing is if you haven't worked through your childhood issues, you are going to be reactive.

And what that means in psychology for a person who's reactive is you are dealing with something that doesn't really exist in the present, but because it's a reminder of what typified your past, it feels like your past is in your present. So you react accordingly. And the main thing is for any therapist is to get people to respond. That puts you a choice.

When you react, it's basically the dominant programs that you internalize that have the final say. So again, working with somebody like that, you give him a message opposite from that person's parents, and you do it with an authority that ideally the person would respect and you go slowly. It has to be incremental. Because there's no way that a person could assimilate a message about himself that's directly contrary to the message that he got earlier.

So in terms of defense mechanisms, I would say all of them are maladaptive once you become an adult. So dissociation is the biggest one. Because dissociation takes you out of the present. And if there's some conflict, if there's something that feels threatening and you can't get hold of that and talk to yourself in a way that in the moment it dissolves, then basically you can't think clearly.

Because anybody whose emotions get hold of them is going to be, in a sense reduced to a childlike reactive state. So denial is similar to dissociation. It also takes you away from the present, which is what all defense mechanisms do. And the only defense mechanism that it occurs to me is always adaptive is sublimation.

Because what sublimation is about is defined in earlier, the earliest psychoanalysis vision with Freud is that basically the impulses that you have that are destructive, that are anti-social, that are overly libidinous, whatever you want to call them, you know at some level would be inhumane to express, dangerous to express, probably illegal.

So Confucius said something like 2000 years ago that if you embark on a journey of revenge, first build two pits. Is it pits, what would it be? Or burial sites. And the whole idea is you end up killing yourself even as presumably you're killing someone else. So it is normal, I think it's really in our DNA to have nasty vengeful thoughts about somebody who's exploited us, taken advantage of us, deceived us.

But to seek revenge on them, it's like giving them a taste of their own medicine, doesn't really resolve the problem. We somehow have to say, “Okay, what is it that I can learn from this? Revenge is not the answer.” And then move forward. The problem with somebody who is really immersed in getting revenge on others, retribution, if you will, is that they're really not focusing on what their personal welfare is.

I don't think that anybody can really be fulfilled by getting revenge because they're still back in the past. So sublimation is basically saying, “Okay, let me take up a musical instrument. Let me color a mandolin or something like that.” That basically you're trying to use that energy, and this is what sublimation is, transform it into something positive and something fulfilling.

So any form of play might be seen as a healthy return to childhood because I think that the healthiest adults are childlike. Not childish, but childlike. And that's one thing about having children, when parents play with their children, they are childlike and they can play a game with the children. And as much as the children love having their parents play with them, they are in a sense restoring something that may have been lost with all the adult obligations that on a daily basis they need to fill.

Jordan Rich:  Yeah. So thank you for diving into some healthier means of self-defense. I think that's going to be very helpful for our audience. So you've touched on reprogramming the self-defense mechanisms you've developed, specifically self-deprecation. Is there any specific advice you would give as to how to reprogram those behaviors or any therapies you would recommend to help someone through that process, any specific therapies?

Leon Seltzer:  The main thing is ultimately all healing comes from within, that therapists need to facilitate the process, they need to kind of guide it. Because basically, people who go into therapy go into therapy because they're stuck. It's not as though they need to have schizophrenia to go into therapy. And schizophrenia is handled as much by medications as anything else because it's considered a brain disease mostly.

And in terms of getting unstuck, some people can do it through what's called bibliotherapy. If you look at my background, you can see that I am pretty much enamored of books, and I stopped buying them when I realized that there was absolutely no more room on my bookshelves to put them. You can see how crowded they are.

I have to really work hard to extricate one book from the book on the left side and the right side. And I probably would not have anywhere as many books if I didn't start buying them before I knew how to use computers or there was all this information available on the computers. I know one thing I do in terms of consulting is I basically recommend books and articles and even videos they can read or they can see, because there's so much psychotherapy material now just on YouTube.

Basically, I'll want them to get a sense of what outdated defense mechanisms may be getting in their way. So sometimes I would explain core concepts to them. Given the fact that I function as a psychotherapist for so many years, I don't want my accumulated clinical wisdom if we can call it that, to go to waste. So I make myself available.

And generally I consult with people who've read one or more of my articles for Psychology Today and have questions. And if the questions are simple, I'm happy, gratis, to answer them, whether it's email or on the phone, maybe 5, 10 minutes. What I find sometimes is that they're complicated and without knowing more about their past, I wouldn't want to be glib and suggest something that would be untenable for them.

So then I make myself available, say for a more formal 60 minute consultation or more than one if that's necessary. But basically the model that I suggest to them is called Internal Family Systems Therapy. And what that means as opposed to Family Systems Therapy, is we have a family inside ourselves, and that internal family can easily give us different messages. So the essence of ambivalence.

And most people who go into therapy are ambivalent. I remember a cartoon I saw many years ago, I think it was called Cathy, it hasn't been in there for a while. But Cathy said something about the fact that she wants to be totally different, but please don't ask her to change.

Because change is very scary. What happens with change is you immediately find your level of anxiety elevating. Of course, because you're asked to change in different ways that your parents that are also inside you have been telling you, or you think they've been telling you not to change because it would endanger this core relationship that you have.

But in any case, with Internal Family Systems Therapy, it's interesting because Schwartz has written at least three or four books for lay people. Richard Schwartz is basically the originator of that particular model. And more and more people are seeing it as state of the art, although it's a very eloquent, elegant theory at the same time that it's not that easy to implement.

But basically, his second book for lay people. I love the title, is called You Are the One You've Been Waiting For. And what he talks about is a person's essential, authentic self, liberated from all these protective mechanisms that he refers to as protective parts. And those are parts of you, spontaneous, playful, wise even, that we all have.

And when we're feeling emotionally overwhelmed, because maybe we're in an incident that's shaming. And anything that's shaming to a child really is traumatic for that child because what defines it as trauma is they feel that their bond with their parents in the moment is being endangered, and they know that they're not self-sufficient, they're not mature enough to live on their own.

They can't run down to the Jones' house at the end of the street and say, "Would you please adopt me? I'm having problems with my parents." So they have to make all these adaptations that I've already talked about. So the main thing about IFS, Internal Family Systems is basically to get more and more in touch with the behaviors that really inhibit you from realizing who you truly are.

And basically, when I advise people, what I advise them to do is to think about how they needed to adapt to their parents' orders. It'd be one thing if the parent made a request, but it was okay if the child refused the request. But frequently, if the child feels that they have to have certain unalterable rules for the child, then the child doesn't have any sense of choice.

So even in self shaming, the protective part inside the child says basically, "You have to do this, otherwise you'll just constantly feel anxious." And I think the saddest thing is I've worked with people in the past that basically would engage in all sorts of extracurricular activities when the school day was over or would go to their best friend's house and come back only when they knew they had to come back for dinner, because as soon as they walked through the front door, their anxiety level would escalate.

And I can't think of anything more disturbing, more horrible than to never feel safe in your own house. And that hardly reflects the majority of people who are in therapy, but to some degree, they had to change who they authentically were in order to adapt. It's not always to the parents. It can be to an older sibling. It could be to kids in the neighborhood.

It could even be to their teachers, because teachers unwittingly can shame students very easily without even knowing that they're doing it. And it's not as though the child can go up to them after class and said, “You just shamed me.” No, they bear that burden inside. And basically what therapy is about, particularly in IFS, Internal Family Systems Therapy is basically to release those burdens, to integrate that wounded child part of you with your adult, and basically bring that child into your present life.

Have the child remind you when it's time to play, maybe even when it's time to get silly. Because being an adult really isn't that much fun. If you think about it, when we think of our adult selves, we think of being conscientious and responsible and productive, and that definitely has its place. But if that's all our life is, then our adult life becomes as burdensome as maybe our childhood was.

Jordan Rich:  Well, thank you for that advice, Dr. Seltzer. That actually concludes my questions for today. So to close, are there any final words of advice or anything else you would like to share with our listeners?

Leon Seltzer:  Well, I don't know that I can say anything that I haven't already said, or I could speak for another 10 hours, one or the other. So we should probably leave it as it is right now.

Jordan Rich:  Right. Perfect. Well, thank you again for meeting with me today, Dr. Seltzer. And thank you to everyone else for tuning in.

Please note: The views expressed by the interviewee are for educational and informational purposes only, are not meant to diagnose or treat any condition, and do not necessarily reflect the views of Seattle Anxiety Specialists, PLLC.


Editor: Jennifer (Ghahari) Smith, Ph.D.

Psychologist Pam Jarvis on Attachment & Trauma Awareness in Schools

An Interview with Psychologist Pam Jarvis

Pam Jarvis, Ph.D. recently retired as an Honorary Visiting Research Fellow at Leeds Trinity University in Leeds, England. Dr. Jarvis specializes in psychological wellbeing in childhood, adolescence, families and education.

Tori Steffen:  Hi everybody. Thank you for joining us today for this installment of the Seattle Psychiatrist Interview series. I'm Tori Steffen, a research intern at Seattle Anxiety Specialists. We're a Seattle-based psychiatry, psychology, and psychotherapy practice specializing in anxiety disorders. I'd like to welcome with us today chartered psychologist Pam Jarvis. Dr. Jarvis is a professor at Leeds Trinity University in Leeds, England. Dr. Jarvis specializes in a multi-disciplinary research perspective, including psychological, biological, social, and historical perspectives. She's written several publications including the book Perspectives on Play, which looks at play-based learning in four to six year olds, and the article Attachment theory, cortisol and care for the under-threes in the twenty-first century: constructing evidence-informed policy. Before we get started today, could you let us know a little bit more about yourself, Dr. Jarvis, and what made you interested in studying attachment and trauma awareness in education?

Pam Jarvis:  Okay, so I should correct that. First of all, I'm retired from Leeds Trinity University now.

Tori Steffen:  Okay.

Pam Jarvis:  And I was a Reader, which is a particularly British term for academics in various, so just to put that on record.

Tori Steffen:  Okay.

Pam Jarvis:  And you asked how I got started, well that's an awful long time ago because I studied as a young mature student when my own children were very small and they're all in their late thirties now. And I had an idea that I wanted to sign on for a degree because I hadn't done that at the so-called right time. And I was interested in psychology and I ended up working as sort of playgroup volunteer and doing my psychology degree at the same time, so it was just a perfect kind of environment to get interested into that kind of arena. And I followed that through really throughout my career with all the other things I've done.

I've also got quite a strong interest in history, but my major thesis in that was written on a pioneer, a nursery pioneer here in Great Britain, although she was actually born in New York State, I think in America, but she grew up and practiced in London. Margaret McMillan actually grew up in Scotland and practiced in London, so it's been a thread, if you like, all the way through my career that, that is the part of psychology that I was always interested in. I would do other things because I'd be encouraged to do that, but then I'd always come back to it. My PhD was on children in early years education, but it was more focused towards their learning on play-based learning. But emotion played a big part in that too, so really it's been a sort of thread that's gone all the way through whatever I've done.

Tori Steffen:  Right. That's great. Yeah, it's nice to have so many different perspectives in your practice. And then I'm sure studying child development with kids of your own might have helped a little bit or given you some knowledge.

Pam Jarvis:  Well, yes. Because you had the theoretical and the practical going on at the same time, so yeah.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  In action.

Tori Steffen:  All righty. Well, getting down to basics, could you explain for the audience what currently exists in the educational environment for student wellbeing?

Pam Jarvis:  Oh, that's a big question. I think it depends on the nation. The Scandinavian nations are much better at this then we are in Britain, and unfortunately you are in the United States. A lot of it revolves around the importance really that the society accords to that period of life and the interest that lawmakers have in early years development. And in my own country it's not much and hardly any, so I think I worked with a lady for quite some time who was a professor of early years child development education at Salem State University in Massachusetts. And the way she described your childcare provision was a patchwork quilt in terms of what was available in various states. Massachusetts did quite well, I think California does reasonably well, but not quite so well.

I'm not an expert on that, but I think where you can make the judgment on Britain in terms of, well, in England, what we do in England, Scotland is slightly better and the politicians are more interested in early years education and in what I'm going to talk about later, adverse childhood experiences, particularly. The politicians at Westminster in England are not interested at all. They have a very much a kind of attitude to, well, how cheaply can you do it?

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  And I think some American states have that kind of attitude when you get a, I don't want to be political here, but when you get a Democratic president, I think you get a bit more interest and when you get a Republican president, you get a bit less interest. And the same thing goes for us that when you get a Labor government, you get more interest. When you get Conservative government, you get less interest. And at the moment, we're under one of the worst Conservative governments we've ever had.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  It's a difficult situation really, but we have hoped that it might get better. Things have turned around before, so I think that we are very dependent in England on the Westminster government, where in America it's the education and it's evolved status now. And it's much more about what state you are living in, but where money's coming from the top, there is a hit on that. Sorry, the trouble with this subject is it so quickly gets into politics.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  We know what good practice is, but it's whether we can provide the lawmakers to actually do it.

Tori Steffen:  Right. Yeah. I think what's important is kind of bringing awareness to just how significant it is to provide the resources for students, so that's what we're going to get into today.

Pam Jarvis:  The Scottish government have done particularly well over the last, I suppose five years. And they've moved in a really big way to a very informed practice. But I wrote a chapter for a document that went forward to Scottish Parliament and it was very receptive.

Tori Steffen:  Wow.

Pam Jarvis:  But not in England, unfortunately.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah. Well, hopefully America and England can learn from others that have a good system in place.

Pam Jarvis:  The Scandinavians. And I think Scotland did draw a lot of its ideas from Scandinavia, although they have their faults as well, nobody's perfect.

Tori Steffen:  Right. All right. Well getting to the topic of attachment theory, could you explain the relevance of attachment theory in education for our listeners?

Pam Jarvis:  I mean the relevance for attachment theory for human beings in every walk of life is enormous. Attachment theory has gone through several stages. And the original one with John Bowlby, who was the creator of the term, had lots of faults, but there's a central core in it, which is the internal working model. And what that means is that when the child is born, it will learn from the adults who look after it how human beings act in their relationships. And where a child gets an upbringing or an environment where they feel that their cared for, that they can call for help when they want, when they feel that their needs will be addressed, they become secure and that then will develop an adult who will feel secure in society. I mean, none of us feel secure all the time. I know I've taught this for years and years to many students and a lot of them actually were parents at the time, and they would sort of come up with this idea, “Oh I'm a bad parent because I'm not perfect. I don't make my child secure all the time.”

I might have actually told them off when I shouldn't have done this type of thing. And I think the first thing to say is, none of us are perfect but we can be good enough, effectively. And it's how the child perceives really whether they're loved and whether they will get support. And then as they grow older, they will apply that model to the rest of society. They will apply it to teachers, to peers, they will apply it to romantic relationships. There are things along the way that can happen that will make things better or worse. It's not just all with, this was one of the thoughts of the original Bowlbyian theory because it was everything with the parents and after the three years, well then that's it. And that's not true, but it is important. What can happen if a child gets the message that other people are not kind and I am not lovable. This is the model of both society and themselves that they will go out with that the self is not worthy of love.

And the society is not going to help you if you ask for help, they're not going to be kind to you. And then all else transpires from that. Most of us go out with it's not an either/or. Most of us go out with something that's somewhere on a scale. This is another thing with Bowlby because it was a 1950s theory. It was very either/or, it's not really like that. But if we're just too far away from the not good enough, what we are doing with those children, you are not only creating that model but also creating an internal stress, it's much easier to stress someone who is not secure because they haven't got any help coming, so we are going to get very stressed very quickly. This is the model of the world in your mind, nobody's going to help me and this is all going wrong. Whereas somebody who is more secure is much happier to go to a colleague and say, “I'm running into trouble here, can you help?” And think that, “Yes, they're going to help me.”

Tori Steffen:  Right. Yeah, that definitely makes sense. How it would have an impact on a child's perspective on if they can reach out for help. And you brought up the stress piece.

Pam Jarvis:  Yes.

Tori Steffen:  So definitely important and very interesting topic to study, and moving kind of over to trauma. How is the topic of trauma connected to wellbeing in education?

Pam Jarvis:  Basically we'll start off with this model of the child of, basically what happened in the 21st century was that there was a lot of work done actually on stress, how stress works within the body. And then this was taken to early years in terms of some children tend to get more stressed more quickly. And what then, because the setting up of the cortisol system is done in the very early years, if that makes sense, so therefore I always cite it to my students like a central heating system that if you've got the thermostat turned up too high, you're going to make the boiler work too hard, so effectively what's going to happen if you continually work the boiler too hard is either it's just going to go poof and die or it's going to blow up. And this is the type of emotion that you've got in these children.

And in education, this does obviously impact on behavior because those children are going to be on a much sort of tighter spring in terms of behavior, they'll do things that seem unreasonable and expect things from adults that seem unreasonable. But the other issue in education is that if you've got these stress patterns running in your head all the time, you are not going to learn as well or as quickly. Because again, the way I describe this to my students is rather like you've got a computer with a finite ability to pay attention to something. And if you are always looking on the horizon for the next bad thing that's going to happen to you, then you don't have that attention or concentration to apply to learning.

Tori Steffen:  Wow.

Pam Jarvis:  So for children who are at the really far end of this scale, it's a really difficult situation. Now here in the UK, one of the issues that is a problem is poverty because this stresses a family, which stresses the child, which creates arguments, which creates insecure attachment, which creates sort of too high reactivity stress reactions. And then this is how disadvantaged children are then disadvantaged as they go along and along and along because when they start education, they're not really set up to learn. And because of the stress that they're carrying, the adverse childhood experiences, which originates in America around about the two thousands also adds some information to this.

I don't know if you're familiar with that, you could probably do a whole piece on adverse childhood experiences, ACEs. Felitti et al, that actually I think was principally studied in California and it's rather simplistic, but it sets up a series of life events that are likely to give a child high adverse childhood experiences, which creates this excess stress. And yeah, it's all related. That's what my article is about. The one that read from early years international is how we put all this together. The work that Bowlby did in the 1950s, the work that's been done in this century on the cortisol reactions and the adverse childhood experiences idea that has come from Felitti. Which is somewhat problematic because again, it rather oversimplifies, you can't just give someone an ACEs score and kind of walk away and say, “Oh, well, that's it.”

This is always the problem with this. And in school in particular, there was a school or an area I think in Scotland that started actually assessing children for ACEs and putting that on a permanent record, but where it can be used to help children and provide help for the family, it can also be used to stereotype, so teachers could go back to it and say, well, this child hasn't achieved because look at their ACEs score, so basically they stopped doing it because it was causing argument. It's something very, very difficult in education because I think in education often there is this problem, which is if we're going to diagnose something, we need to know how to treat it. And if we're going to diagnose it and not treat it, we maybe are going to cause more harm than good because child will be stereotyped, so this is where we are at the moment.

Tori Steffen:  That's a great point. Yeah, there's so many different areas that kind of go into the attachment, and education, and trauma, and the biological perspective that you mentioned, so that's great that you know, were able to take it a step further and kind of fill in some of those gaps by putting all of this information and knowledge together, so it's definitely important to know.

Pam Jarvis:  That was the purpose of the article. Yeah, it was effectively a literature review that said, there's this area of theory, there's this area of theory, there's this area of theory, but they all go together to make this picture.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  And then of course you are setting the scene for a lot more research.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, and it just gives us so much more information that's really crucial to providing for those students that have insecure attachments, or trauma, or low stress management, which we're going to get into here soon as well.

Pam Jarvis:  I mean, this is something that, what I worked when I was a teacher, principally with children in the secondary phase, junior high and high school, and I ended up basically going to work to train early years professionals here. And the reason I decided to do that, well, there were so many teenagers that I would deal with who I in the end would think, well, most of the problem with you is something that probably happened before you arrive, but now I'm looking at you at 15 and our options are limited, there are options, but they're limited. Whereas if I go and work with people who work with children in early years, that will be training people to understand this so we can do better at the period where we should be doing better and have more impact, if that makes sense.

Tori Steffen:  Right. Oh, absolutely. Yeah, it's important to kind of reach these children early because a lot of the development is happening at those very young ages, so that's a great point as well.

Pam Jarvis:  There's not nothing we can do at 15, but it's so much better if we did it at three or four.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  Or even before birth if we work with the parents.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, exactly, exactly. Well, why do you think is it beneficial for schools to be more aware around the topics of trauma and attachment?

Pam Jarvis:  Well, here in Britain or in England I should say, and in America there's been a sort of fad over the last 10 years for this zero tolerance idea with teenagers that if they do something very small wrong, then you come down on them really hard and sort of make them mind if you like put them in isolation. But the trouble is, if you've got children who are basically on edge all the time, if you apply a zero tolerance regime to that child, you're going to make them much, much worse because the model of themselves they're carrying in their head is, I'm not worthy. And the model of other people they're carrying in their head is they are not going to help me.

All you're doing is justifying both of those beliefs if you're going to apply a zero tolerance technique to them, so where we have trauma-informed practice instead of immediately saying, well, a punishment is going to work here. I think the lady who works in California, sorry, whose name I've forgotten, I always do this in interviews, I should have looked this up, but I've got on her says, do not say what is wrong with you to a child, say what happened to you. They may not know in fact, but that's the question the adult should ask first. If you've got a child who's always creating problems, it's not what's wrong with them, it's what happened to them to make them do that. Obviously all teenagers misbehave at some points and sometimes the reasons aren't very deep, it's just trying their luck because that's the way they are.

But if you are a reasonable teacher or if you are a reasonable school counselor or whatever, you ought to be able to tell the difference. And this is to me where the importance of training comes in. I don't think we need to train teachers to be social workers, but we do need to train them to spot the problems. And I'm honestly not sure about teacher training in the US. I think, again, it is different in different states, but in England, I can tell you for a fact, we don't train teachers like this and it's just not appropriate. They need to be trained in this, in child development effectively.

Tori Steffen:  Right. Yeah, that is a really good point. As you mentioned, maybe teachers aren't exactly social workers, but they do have a large impact on children, on their wellbeing, and it is important for them to have those tools to address issues that come up, so that's a really good one.

Pam Jarvis:  Well, they're a first line practitioner, aren't they?

Tori Steffen:  Correct.

Pam Jarvis:  They're the ones who will flag this up. No one's saying that they have to deal with really difficult cases on their own, but they know enough to flag this up. I mean, all the time I was teaching teenagers because I was a psychologist, obviously I did, but I would go to higher up to various people who would clearly have no idea, and it was so frustrating.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, yeah, that's definitely important to have. I think that just that alone could make a really big difference.

Pam Jarvis:  It really could.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah. Well, something in your article noted that children who experience ongoing stress from an insecure relationship with adults, they can develop issues with stress management.

Pam Jarvis:  Yeah.

Tori Steffen:  How might that say a low stress management, how might that show up in an education environment?

Pam Jarvis:  It's children who are not focused on learning, sometimes they can act out, but often it's just a kind of just not focused that a teacher can tell this, that the mind is somewhere else. And also a child who's very on the edge, if they get some kind of mild admonishment from a teacher, will just flip out and create a huge amount of difficulty. And then obviously in some regimes, the punishment for that is very harsh. One of the things English schools do is often exclude children for either for a short time or if they really badly offended them permanently. But that doesn't answer our question, it just passes it on. And there's a term here in the UK, I'm not sure if it's familiar to you, which is the exclusion prison pipeline.

Tori Steffen:  I haven't heard of that.

Pam Jarvis:  Yeah, so the child is effectively back out of education and then they'll turn up in prison sometimes later.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  And still carrying whatever it was that happened when they were three, and nobody's tried to address it or two or whatever.

Tori Steffen:  Right, which could create issues down the road that could have been avoided from the start.

Pam Jarvis:  Well, the biggest sort of irritation to me is that is so expensive.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  It costs more to keep a child here in secure accommodation, child offenders, than it does to send a child to Eaton where Prince William and Prince Harry went, so what is the sensible thing to do? It's not just about being a woke liberal, it's about common sense.

Tori Steffen:  Right. Yeah, that's a really good point. Well, what can schools do to help students with higher stress and insecure attachment styles?

Pam Jarvis:  Well, we need trauma informed environments, so this is staff training so that all teachers are aware when to spot the signs of a child who is highly stressed. And we also need, there's endless arguments in England about exclusions that if a child is dangerous to other children, you can't keep them in the classroom. I mean obviously that's true, but the question is, is where are you then sending them? Are you sending them to an isolation booth and punishing them or are you sending them to an adult who is trained to work with them. And actually get to the bottom of what it is that's bothering them? Often, as I say, they can't say, but it's taking, if you like, I think what the adult has to keep in their mind is this child most likely has a model of themselves that is they're not lovable and they have a model of me that I'm not willing to help them, so it's starting to work on that.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  Wherever it is you are sending them. Teachers can do this too for children exhibiting sort of lower levels of stress, but that needs to run all the way through the school process. And we're really not very good at that in this country.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  With the fact Scotland has made a start on this.

Tori Steffen:  Okay, well it's good to hear that somebody out there is confronting the situation and hopefully we can learn from what works, what doesn't, so that we can kind of reap those benefits as well.

Pam Jarvis:  What we hear, the problem, I'm sorry, this is becoming a very policy oriented discussion, isn't it? But the thing is, you can't, what we hear is actually putting this kind of policy in place is very expensive, but the argument is that more children are going to come out the other end who are not going to go into prison, who are going to create family lives that are less fraught themselves for their own children. And it's that invisible saving. There was a project actually in the US called Headstart, I don't know if you've heard of this? Where children from projects and their parents were given a lot of help and care, they'd be about my age now in their sixties. And there was disappointment because it hadn't made them sort of hugely academically more able when they got to school than children that hadn't had been in the project.

But as they grew older, they were more likely to form secure partnerships, adult partnerships. Their own children were more likely to be secure, they were more likely to be employed, they were more likely to graduate high school. So all of that, even though it hadn't made them super clever or raised their IQ by a huge amount, that security in their lives had made them, if you like, better citizens, be because they had a good, we keep going back to the internal working model, don't we? Because they had a self-confidence in their own abilities, and they also had the belief that the society was a good place.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  Why would I contribute to a society where I think nobody much likes me, or is going to help me.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, that's definitely important to understand how, it just sounds like it's very significant, the attachment style and the way that the child perceives themselves and others, which makes sense that, that alone can have such a big impact on educational success. And then later in life relationships, so many other areas in life.

Pam Jarvis:  And educational success doesn't just mean high grades and going to an Ivy League university.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  It means getting to the end of education, graduating, and maybe doing a very ordinary job, but that security to do that, to stick at it. And attachment is really, if you like, the melting pot for all this.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  That early part of life where we learn who we are and how other people will react to us, our expectation of ourselves and others.

Tori Steffen:  Absolutely. Well, if students are experiencing anxiety or other mental health issues, are schools able to provide any type of therapy or even just recommend that the caregivers seek out therapy?

Pam Jarvis:  Well, again, in England, and in America, I presume it again, depends on the states. In England, no, we are in terrible trouble with this. We've got huge amounts of teenage mental breakdown, which isn't only to do with the home, it's to do with social media, and to do with the experiences they went through in lockdown and COVID. Our mental health service is massively, massively overloaded. But really we could, as I say, train other professionals in the children's workforce to be able to do some of the work, but we don't.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  Every so often the prime minister, whoever it is this week, says, “Oh, well we are going to put more money into the mental health service.” But my kind of reaction to that is, well, that's like pushing somebody off a cliff because we've got so many families living in poverty here and sending an ambulance in the bottom. Why don't we help families at the beginning, so we don't have so many kids with mental health problems in the end?

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  We can't really do much about social media or there are things we could do, and I have written about that. And again, we could do a lot more about family poverty, a lot more.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  We can't make all families secure.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  But we can raise the chances, and we just don't bother.

Tori Steffen:  Right. Yeah, why not start from the beginning versus trying to fix issues later down the road when it's going to be, you have limited options as how to help these individuals.

Pam Jarvis:  And their bigger issues.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, and they already have that ingrained insecure attachment. Yeah, I think it would be more beneficial from the beginning, see what you can do to intervene there versus later on.

Pam Jarvis:  I mean, I haven't actually specifically written about this, but I mean logically, if you are insecurely attached, the type of trolling and bullying you get on social media is going to have a much bigger effect on you and so on.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, yeah, because you just have less tools maybe to deal with that kind of stress.

Pam Jarvis:  Yeah.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  Well that's the thing with stress, isn't it? The actual term stress was taken from engineering, I believe originally and if you've got a bridge that's built with stress metal, you put a train on it that's too heavy and it goes pow, same thing for human beings.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, I like the analogy.

Pam Jarvis:  If this is already cracked and you put a heavy load on it will give way.

Tori Steffen:  Yep. Yeah, that's a perfect analogy for kind of what you can expect from students. Well, what can families do on their own to help children develop a secure attachment? And if they are able to develop that secure attachment, do you think that, that would lead to a higher wellbeing in a school environment?

Pam Jarvis:  We have to recognize how hard it is for families to start with, I think, because I would hate to input family blaming because there are so many stresses on families now. But all things being equal, what the child needs in the first three years is a group of bonded adults. Bowlby said it just had to be the mother, this is not true. That's been shown again and again and again.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  What children need is a circle of adults, it could be three, five, but who take care of them and are bonded to them and what they will, who are emotionally available to them who have a focus on them. And what tends to happen is they create a main attachment and then these subsidiary attachments, so therefore it doesn't really matter. Your daily round could be to be with mom on one day, with dad on another day, with granny one on one day, granny two on the other day. That's fine, as long as that's familiar and you are bonded to those people. And out of that a main attachment will come, but the other people are acceptable substitutes. The big problem that you have with children is if they're sent particularly to daycare where the staff keep changing and then they don't have an adult in that environment who they have that bond with.

And there are ways, personally, and this is just my personal preference, I would prefer that families were at least given the option for parental and kin care within the first three years. But if there's a lady down the road who's a really experienced child minder and you're paying her to take care of the child and she's wonderful with the child, what's the problem with that? She just becomes another one of that bonded circle. Barbara Tizard who worked with Bowlby, I think she's still alive, but she'd be quite old by now. She said, well look, the way that children were cared for in the early industrial period in Britain, because women did have to go out to work when they worked in the field, obviously the children could often tail along behind them, but there was a tradition in England of paying one woman in an extended family to care for all the children, so it could be a sister, a cousin, it could even be a grandmother.

But this created, although they might have been poor or sometimes the kids didn't get enough attention, there would be a group, a kin group of children, and a bonded adult, so really, in many ways that's better than sending a child to faceless daycare. It's a really low, here across the UK and in America childcare is, the parents pay for it. If you're lucky, I think in America you are going to get a creche attached to your job, that doesn't happen in the UK, so parents pay for the daycare that they can afford, so if you've got parents in poverty, often they're paying the lowest price for daycare and that daycare is paying the practitioners the lowest possible money. And those practitioners are, they're moving in and out of those roles all the time because they're so badly paid and they'll get a better job. It really is setting up a child that, if you like, disadvantage leads to disadvantage, leads to disadvantage.

Our prime minister for 60, 30, I can't remember, about 45 days, wasn't it Liz Truss, she was children's minister of 10 years previously, and she was asked, would you send your child to this type of daycare? And she said, “Well, children do get care, obviously I'm not looking after them all the time.” And it came down to the fact she had a nanny. Well fine, they can bond with the nanny. With attachment, what I think this is something that's often missed, the disadvantage often breeds disadvantage all the way along the line because it's about how you fund your family.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah.

Pam Jarvis:  And that is often in direct sort of opposition to good attachment in that first three years.

Tori Steffen:  Right. Yeah, you can see how it could be a domino effect of sorts and it's going to have an impact on the development of the child, and especially around trauma and attachment, so yeah those are important things to think about when you're choosing care for your children. And a really great point about the bonding with a number of adults, I envision just the parents, but it really makes sense to have a larger group of adults that children can bond with.

Pam Jarvis:  Well, granny's are often very helpful in this respect, but as you know, society's getting poorer, then often the grandparents are having to go to work.

Tori Steffen:  Right.

Pam Jarvis:  It's quite worrying, I think what is happening in the current situation where we have rising fuel prices, rising inflation, and it's making families poorer and poorer. And at the bottom of all this, children are suffering.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I can definitely see how that would have an impact. And let's say everything goes right and a child does develop that secure attachment. Do you think that a secure attachment leads to wellbeing in school for that child? They can accomplish it a little easier.

Pam Jarvis:  I think they have the best chance of being the best that they can be. If you send them to a really bad school, well then nobody is emotionally indestructible. You can't bank on it, but you've given them the best chance, I think.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah. Yeah, I would agree. I think you're setting them up for success in a way. Yeah, just providing a good development, so I definitely agree with that.

Pam Jarvis:  It's kind of how we see success and success in a life, well it doesn't necessarily mean you went to the best university or you had the highest paying job.

Tori Steffen:  Yeah, very true.

Pam Jarvis:  It's being comfortable to be yourself and you've got your best chance of that if you feel that people like you and that they will help you.

Tori Steffen:  Right. Yeah, just having a healthy perspective on the world, on yourself will have a big impact on what you choose to do in your life, no matter what it may be. All right. Well, Dr. Jarvis, do you have any final words of advice for our listeners or anything else you'd like to share with us today?

Pam Jarvis:  Yeah, I think we have to see children as much more important in neoliberal societies like the UK and the US than we do. They are almost pushed under the wheels of the economy and profit. And we exist in order to make money and to make profit. And in that culture, the children are the ones who suffer the most. I think particularly, we... Actually, today we've had a news article about a private company that we're responsible actually for looking after children in residential care who gave them the most appalling service because their motive was profit. Rather than the quality of the care for children. And I think we are in danger of pushing children under these wheels and just not worrying about the emotional setup we are building for their future, but the only future that any of us have is our children. And I think this is something that we just don't think about enough.

Tori Steffen:  Yep. Very good points there. Yeah, like you mentioned, it's important to just start early so that you're not spending, you have to create all these policies and put things in place for later down the line as far as social workers and wellbeing. It just makes more sense to put the emphasis on child wellbeing during development. It's going to do your children a favor and just kind of well roundly help everything else along the way.

Pam Jarvis:  The economy is for people, people are not for the economy. And I think that's especially relevant to childhood because of the development that they need and the human things that we have to give them to allow them to develop healthily. We pay a lot of attention to physical health, because we can see it. But we don't pay enough attention to emotional health.

Tori Steffen:  Yes.

Pam Jarvis:  And then very quickly, it's coming up to too late. You're going to have to do an awful lot of work to reclaim that child where if you've done it properly first off, then it wouldn't have been so difficult.

Tori Steffen:  Right. Yeah. Well, hopefully parents and teachers out there can kind of develop those tools and skills to help these young kids develop in a healthy way, so thank you so much for sharing all your knowledge today with us, Dr. Jarvis. I've definitely learned a lot and I'm guessing our listeners did as well, so thank you so much.

Pam Jarvis:  Thank you.

Tori Steffen:  Thank you so much, and thanks everybody for tuning in and we'll see you next time.

Please note: The views expressed by the interviewee are for educational and informational purposes only, are not meant to diagnose or treat any condition, and do not necessarily reflect the views of Seattle Anxiety Specialists, PLLC.


Editor: Jennifer (Ghahari) Smith, Ph.D.